Monday, October 02, 2006

Change is good....but has it been all good?

I attended one of America's, and truly the South's, most storied universities when it comes to race relations. While the University of Mississippi was no exception in disallowing African-Americans from segregating the university, in its case prior to 1963, it was made an example. Someone has to the example right? Because it was made an example, there has been a seemingly impermeable level of disgust, resentment, and fear for some to attend. I'm not afraid of much of anything so I welcomed the challenge. As I reflect on my challenges and my feats (which were far greater) I am glad that I made that decision. From time-to-time, I do wonder what attending an HBCU would have been like. But, that's neither here nor there. I am what I am AND thankful for it. Attached is an article critiquing a historic event on the campus. I am very proud of my alma mater and look forward to helping to demystifying the stigma. Every institution has or does deal with racism. But so does America? See the article from Yahoo! below. Also learn more about The University of Mississippi (Ole Miss) at

Be Well

Ole Miss marks integration anniversary

OXFORD, Miss. - The University of Mississippi marked the 44th anniversary of its integration Sunday by dedicating a civil rights monument at a ceremony attended by politicians, actor Morgan Freeman and the student, now 73, who started it all.

The monument features a life-size bronze likeness of James Meredith, the first black student admitted to the university. The statue is posed as if it is striding toward a 17-foot-tall limestone portal topped with the words "courage," "perseverance," "opportunity" and "knowledge."
"This is a day to rejoice," said U.S. Rep. John Lewis (news, bio, voting record), a Georgia Democrat, who delivered the keynote address to about 1,500 people who attended. "With the unveiling of this monument, we free ourselves from the chains of a difficult past. Today we can celebrate a new day, a new beginning, the birth of a new South and a new America that is more free, more fair and more just than ever before." Meredith, who lives in Jackson, attended the ceremony but was not a speaker.

After the ceremony, he posed beside the statue for photos with former Gov. William Winter and autographed printed programs. The monument was built with $160,000 in grants and private donations.

The ceremony included remarks by university Chancellor Robert Khayat; U.S. Rep. Roger Wicker (news, bio, voting record), R-Miss.; Meredith's son, Joseph, who earned a doctorate in finance from the university; and Freeman.

"Mississippi is a much better state today because of James Meredith, and this is a much better university," said Freeman, a Mississippi resident. "Thank you, Mr. Meredith."
Lewis brought the crowd to its feet by recounting his childhood and his time as a national organizer of civil rights activities, including the historic March on Washington in 1963.
Lewis, who was beaten by a mob in Alabama in 1961, praised Meredith and university leaders for fostering acceptance and equal access.

"This is a monument to the power of peace to overcome violence," he said. "And it is a monument to the power of love to overcome hate."

After Gov. Ross Barnett tried to block Meredith's admission in 1962, President John F. Kennedy used National Guard troops to restore order. The soldiers were bombarded with brickbats and Molotov cocktails by a mob of hundreds of whites — students and others — who chanted, "Two, four, six, eight, we will never integrate." Two people were killed in the riots.

The leafy Oxford campus, in the hills of north Mississippi, also contains a Confederate soldier statue as a tribute to students who fought in the Civil War. The statue of Meredith is about 100 yards away, separated from it by a building that still bears bullet scars from the integration fight.

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Saturday, September 09, 2006

"In Awe Of You...."

"Past the gates, and through the course to the most holy place, we worship you face to face. Oh what a place to be. Lord You're so awesome to me. Hear we are in Your presence, Your holy holy presence; blanketed by Your glory, just like the morning dew. Hear we are in Your presence, Your holy holy presence; Lord of the universe we're in awe of you. I sense Your presence and I feel Your power. Your hand is mighty upon me, and I'm in awe of You. You're so awesome, Lord You're awesome. Our God is an awesome God. We stand in awe of you."

This song was written and performed by an up and coming gospel artist named Izzy. I first heard this song on the radio (95.7 Hallelujah FM). OMG. I was breathless. I also heard the song at a time when I had just recently completed one of the most daunting tasks of my personal and professional lives. As you may determine from this blog, I've been studying for the CPA exam for the past 7 months. That in itself has been more than I expected. But, it was more because I what I learned about me, not so much about executing the exam. I knew that was not going to be a cakewalk so I was ready for that. What I learned was more about me: what I really want, where my personal weaknesses are, and most importantly what is MOST important to me.

I've been boiling over on the inside waiting to post this experience. This may be part I since 7 months is a long time. I'm setting the atmosphere in this post. The words to that song are so true and have manifest themselves in my life, before I heard the song. I am all about words in music. Yes, I want it to sound good. But what's most important is how what you say and how you say it impacts others. I also say that people will not always remember what you say, but will remember how you made them feel. You can only do that if you can effectively communicate a message...Not just notes on a page. Do you feel me on this?

I have successfully completed 3 of the 4 sections. I have to retake the last one, but I'm not worried. Someone told me the other day that I'm in my season. I truly believe that. I want you to share your experiences with me that have been life changing. Have you been in, or are you in, your season where it is your time? By that I mean, it's your time to be blessed and all things revealed to you. Everything thing that has been promised is manifesting itself? We learn from sharing. So now that I've set the atmosphere...we'll begin. Part II to come next week. Much love.

Be well!

Friday, August 04, 2006

"I'm Still Here"

"I'm still here. I'm still here. I made it through. So have you. I've come thru the fire, come thru the flood. I'm still here. I've been kept by His blood."

Yes, friends. I am still here. This CPA Exam/Study journey has been one that has taught me a lot. I've taken three of the four exams now. The last one is August 31. I know that I passed the last two, but I haven't been given the official word yet. I passed the 1st one. It's almost over. Once I take the Regulation/Tax section, I'm done. I am so excited, yet focused. I will have to blog about this experience. I've learned soooo much about myself throughout the past 6 months. I'm so blessed. I promise I'll tell you guys all about it. I've not been able to post since I've been so focused. But this is my week break between exams. I'm back on the grind on Sunday night. Please continue to pray for me and I'll do the same for you!

Be well!!

Check out my man Dennis Rodman. Despite his faults and issues, there is something so exotic and sexy about him. My man knows how I feel about Dennis. LOL.... He could be slanging his di@@ or selling drugs. So I ain't mad at him for keeping the cash flow going...even if this seems ridiculous. Click here

Note: The CPA Certificate is motivation only. I'm not stealing or using anyone's info as my own. I copied this certificate from the internet....!

Monday, June 19, 2006

"You Are An Heir"

"Oh don't you know that you are called for greatness, chosen to reign, to lead with holy boldness. I've seen your failures and I know that you need answers. But those with great failures are blessed to be great winners. See yourself in the future. You are royalty. You are an heir.....!" -Donald Lawrence and Tri-City, Finale: Act I

I'm still studying for the CPA exam. Man, so much that I learned, or should have learned, in school is coming back. It's going a lot better than I expected. I still haven't received any scores yet, but I "see myself in the future." I know that I am an heir to all things that God has for me. I also keep in mind that I can't go to the next level or where He wants me to be until I attain what I began.

I saw this article on the site. I was so saddened by it. It made me think and consider when my partner and I decide to adopt or conceive (either he or me) a child. We have to get those details squared away in the beginning. God forbid we break up after 6+ years. But I'd be heart broken to loose all ties with my son or daughter. All I can say is that she should not give up. She was a provider for her partner and her their child. She deserves more. Breakup or no, you don't just treat someone like that. You bought a house together and decided to have a child. I'd be made as hell, personally. And I'm sure she is...But she should never give up.

BTW....I realized today that I need to get a little more serious about my workouts. I need to loose 10 lbs...Quickly. I already think I'm hottt...But why not get hotter (LOL)! Here's the article. Let me hear from you all....

Kentucky supreme court rules against lesbian in child custody dispute...
The Kentucky supreme court has unanimously ruled against a lesbian seeking joint custody of a child with her former partner. Chief Justice Joseph Lambert, who wrote the opinion, maintained that Brenda Fawbush was not the primary caregiver, despite participating in supporting and raising the child.

Over a six-year period, Louisville residents Fawbush and Teresa Davis raised the girl, who was a newborn when they brought her home from the hospital. Three years ago, the couple split up, and Davis, who had legally adopted the girl, took her and cut off contact with her former partner. Fawbush sued, seeking visitation and joint custody rights, but the Kentucky court ruled against her. The justices warned in the ruling that Kentucky law could affect all nontraditional caregivers, such as grandparents who raise a child when a mother cannot. The 7-0 vote upholds a lower court decision, which said that although Fawbush was the primary breadwinner, she was not the primary caregiver. According to the court, under Kentucky law she has no standing to seek custody or visitation. (Sirius OutQ News)

Friday, June 09, 2006

Stop the madness.....Aren't there poor and dying people who need this attention?

Gay-Marriage Supporters Relieved
Complied by the DiversityInc staff© 2006®
June 09, 2006

Gay-marriage supporters expressed relief Wednesday at the Senate's rejection of a gay marriage ban and warned conservatives that the issue won't influence November elections.
Senators rejected the proposed constitutional amendment by a wide margin.
"It is clear that most Americans saw this for what it was: base political pandering, skewed priorities and abdicated responsibilities," said Matt Foreman, executive director of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force.

In Massachusetts, where gay marriage was legalized in 2004, gays and lesbians were grateful the measure failed but were concerned it might fuel further homophobia - especially since the amendment's backers announced plans to resurrect it in the House next month.

"There seems to be malice and opportunism in the politics of this debate," said J.M. Sorrell, a lesbian from Springfield, Mass., who has performed about 150 same-sex marriages as a justice of the peace. "There's a lack of treating an entire group of people with love, dignity and equality."

Massachusetts' gay nuptials and San Francisco's short-lived same-sex wedding spree in 2004 were credited with creating a conservative backlash that fueled Bush's re-election. Yet gay marriage activists pointed to Tuesday's primary elections as evidence that sexual orientation is irrelevant in politics.

The Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund, a political action committee funding lesbian and gay candidates, reported that nine of its 51 endorsed candidates either won primaries Tuesday or earned enough votes for a runoff.

Winners included a lesbian running for a seat in the Alabama Legislature who made it to a two-person runoff, an Iowa lawmaker who won re-election after coming out as gay during his first term, and a lesbian who could become the first openly gay lawmaker in the Arkansas Legislature.

The amendment's supporters, meanwhile, angrily denounced the Senate for refusing to put the matter up for an up-or-down vote. Robert Knight, director of Concerned Women of America's Culture and Family Institute, said he was insulted by comments from some senators that gay marriage was not a pressing national issue.

"There's nothing more important than protecting marriage and families, because without them the United States faces a bleak future in which government is daddy and mommy and the state keeps growing to pick up the pieces of the shattered social order," Knight said in a statement. (AP)

When will our lawmakers start focusing on the issues they purported to defend when they were elected?

WTH.....Is Denny's Still in Business??

New Discrimination Charges for Denny's
By Brenda Velez© 2006®June 09, 2006

(Note: This story was updated on June 9 after its original posting to include a response from Denny's)

Even after shelling out millions in settlements and introducing racial-sensitivity training programs for all of its employees, Denny's has received new charges of racial discrimination.

A Michigan-based restaurant-management corporation filed a complaint claiming that one of the most recognized eateries in the United States routinely placed franchisees owned by people of color in underperforming locations while giving more favorable locations to white owners.

YPSI Corp., based in Detroit, Mich., recently filed for relief against Denny’s in Wayne County Circuit Court in Detroit, Mich., alleging breach of contract, racial discrimination and multiple violations of Michigan's Franchise Investment Law.

The complaint states that YPSI entered into a 15-year agreement with Denny's for the lease and operation of a Denny's restaurant in Allen Park, Mich. As a participant of Denny's Fast-Track minority-development program. Denny's then, according to the YPSI complaint, violated the terms of its Fast-Track program and demanded an "exorbitant sum of money to remain in business."

"YPSI merely wants to be treated the same as the non-minority Denny's franchisees," said Norman Yatooma, principal of Norman Yatooma & Associates, and lead attorney for the case. "Denny's and YPSI negotiated the agreement and it now appears that Denny's is going back on its offer to guarantee financing and ensure the success of its minority franchisees."

Denny's responded in a statement, calling the allegations "false and without merit."
The statement also claims Denny's did not go back on its offer and blamed Andre Snyder of YSPI Corp. for the failed relationship between the two companies.

"In the late 1990s, Mr. Snyder participated in our Fast Track franchise program created to increase Denny's minority franchise base. He completed the required training, and purchased a Denny's restaurant, taking advantage of the special financial package offered to qualified candidates," Denny's said in the statement. "Mr. Snyder's franchise relationship with Denny's ended only after he failed to fulfill his financial obligations. By failing to fulfill these obligations, Mr. Snyder effectively terminated his agreement with the company."

As DiversityInc readers know, this is not the first time Denny's has been accused of discrimination. During the 1990's, Denny's faced a series of well-known discrimination lawsuits involving several cases that accused servers of denying or providing inferior service to people of color. In 2005, seven men of Middle Eastern descent sued Denny's for $28 million in damages after they were kicked out of a South Florida location and compared to terrorist Osama bin Laden.

Denny's decision to implement racial-sensitivity programs stem from the 1993 "Dyson, et al. v. Denny's, Inc" case in which six black on-duty officers in the U.S. Secret Service were refused service for more than an hour when they attempted to order breakfast. Meanwhile, their white fellow officers at a nearby table were served without incident. After the six officers filed a lawsuit, thousands of other customers reported that they had experienced similar discriminatory incidents at Denny's Restaurants nationwide. Denny's paid the more than 130,000 litigants in this case $17.7 million. Denny's consent decree also placed it under an extensive court order to provide nondiscrimination training to its employees and to monitor and report future instances of discrimination.

Who still eats at Denny's and why are they still in business??? What do you think?

Wednesday, May 31, 2006

"Broken, But I'm Healed......"

A like-titled song by one of my favorite Praise & Worship leaders/singers, Byron Cage, says that "God can heal, He can deliver. He can mend your brokenness. He has miracle to fit your needs. Once you trust Him, you will receive." I cannot tell you how that song has hit home for me over the past month or so. That one, coupled with Donald Lawrence & Blanche McAllister’s "These Nails" have carried me through the tests, trials, and triumphs I have faced and will face. What are you talking about??? Here know how I do it.

Since February of this year, I've been studying intently for the CPA exam. To date, I've completed 2 of 4 parts of the exam. While that has been and continues to be a challenge, what in the world ever comes easy that's worth having? Nothing I know of. Anyhow, I'm also in a position in my career where a promotion is on the horizon. Because of that, I've accepted increased responsibilities. Those responsibilities made the past two weeks, in particular, most challenging for me. I was on the road in NY and NJ, working 10-12 hours a day, and then having to find time to study and workout, AND stay in touch with my hubby. Who's motivated in all that?

Each day and night, I take time to give God thanks and praise for His continued blessings. As well, I meditate on my day, read some scripture, and sing (which happens throughout the day). These rituals, that have become part of my lifestyle, keep me grounded and focused. I know that I want to move to the next level in my career and my life. Those things don't happen when you loose focus of your goals. There are soooo many distractions, but I promise God has kept me.

Corporate America is and has always been like crabs in a barrel. When you're trying to do what you need to do to be promoted, everyone sees and tries to keep you down. As a leader, it's sooo important to know how to follow. Because I've paid my dues, been faithful, and treated people right over the years, being placed in the leadership roles has not been challenging on the respect front. But when you try to wear so many hats, it definitely weighs you down. That's where my BROKENNESS came in. Fighting off the haters and struggling to stay focused.

But my healing came in when I remember that "I am an heir (DLawrence)" and "Giants die, the bigger they are, the harder they fall (DLawrence)."

Even though Monday begins the next phase of studying for the exam and continued battles on the job, I ready.

What I think I want to do here, when I get a chance, is review some CDs (new and old releases) and maybe a few books. So much has gone into what has gotten me where I need to be. I want to share with others who may be going through the same or similar situations. I've learned that we, as Americans, Black Men, Gay Men, and others, are such a take, take, take, society. It's only when you GIVE that you experience the true essence and happiness life has to offer. I'm growing through the examples of Christ. Additionally, strong black men like CDP, my father, my grandfather, Keith Boykin, Kenneth Winfrey, and Fratman06 (not sure if I even knew your real name but bloggers know who you are), Donald Lawrence, Byron Cage, E. Lynn Harris, James Earl Hardy, Martin Luther King, LHD, Essence Hemphill, and the list can go on forever, have helped me to become the man that I am and strive to be.

While I've been broken, and may be again, I am healed. "It's a new season" and "I'm going to another level" (Israel & New Breed). I want to take whoever is willing along for the ride.

P.S. As if you hadn't noticed by now, I love Gospel music. I'll be using it a lot more here as the time goes by. I echo this sentiment I found on A-Z Lyrics: "If you've ever felt down or doubted the plan He has for you, just pop in a Byron Cage CD and listen to his music lyrics – it will undoubtedly lift up your spirit. And this is exactly what the Prince of Praise wants you to feel, a renewed kinship with the Lord through the lyrics of his gospel songs. "

You be the judge!


Saturday, April 29, 2006

Ok....I I'm sorta back...

What's up bloggers? I've missed you all sooo much. I've been a man on a mission for the past five months. I'm at a place where I'm ready to go to the next level in my career. But, I have some self-improvement to do. I've been diligently studying for the CPA Exam. I've taken 1 part and will be taking the next in May, July, and October. It's a long process, but I travel so much and have other obligations that I have to take in stride. My goal is to reward myself on my birthday (in October) by adding those three letters behind my name. I can see it now. I've been fasting, praying, studying, and really getting to know more about myself throughout this process. I'll then reward myself for Christmas with a new job (if it be God's will)! I'm sure my partner will love that. I want him to have nothing but the best. Please leave me shout outs. I do check the sight pretty frequently, I just don't have the energy to update it. Working all day, studying, and handling all my other obligations (mainly to the church) leaves me little time or energy. But God is able! He's brought me this far and I know He'll carry me through. Please think about me when you can. I love you guys.

Oh yeah. I tried the Yahoo! 360 thing and it didn't really work out like I anticipated so I'm back. Holla at me!!!

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